"Language does not exist apart from thought, and thought does not exist apart from language; they are one and the same."
James Berlin--Rhetoric and Reality.
What do you want? What gets in the way? How do you get there? What defines your journey?
Desire is a language we all understand... or struggle to understand. For the purpose of this discussion, however, we will stand outside the weight of this word and examine. We will ask ourselves: What does it mean?
Consider the numerous narratives that stand before you--school, career, family, relationships, and the persistent demands of self-discovery. Consider the narratives that have carried you to this place: the scope of your lived lives, the streets, the houses, the communities and families that have dressed you, built your belief systems, formed your values. How do these elements of language continue to define you? What part of you strikes out against them?
This conversation can be broad and far ranging, but always in the spirit of discovery. I encourage you to ask difficult questions but maintain a vigorous atmosphere of inquiry. Paulo Freire, the great liberation theorist writes: "Hope is rooted in men's incompletion, from which they move out in constant search--a search which can be carried out only in communion with others. Hopelessness is a form of silence, of denying the world and fleeing from it." As your moderator, I will steer the conversation towards this communion and into the nuts and bolts, the foundation and framing, the structure and manifestation of this language of desire. I ask you to do the same.
As always, please maintain an atmosphere of community and support. We are attempting to develop an "academic" approach to an unacademic topic. In other words, you can disagree, but respect each other's opinion. Be supportive and generous with your discussion.
So, once again, what do you want? What gets in the way? How do you get there? What defines your journey?
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Well what I want is probably what everyone wants, it’ s the fact to be successful and live the American dreams with a big house and nice cars and etc. I think (fear) might be the factor that sometime gets in my way. Fear to be open and to try new things, fear of failing, fear of being judge at, fear of doing something wrong and other will criticize and the fear to go out of my comfort zone. I don’t know how I am going to get there; I think I will find that out as I go along. Maybe overcoming my fear to be open with society, to be more sociable is one of the first things I need to do in order to get there. My journey is like a needle in a haystack. The needle is me and the haystack is all the obstacles I have to overcome.
Okay. Nice. Thanks for being brave and posting the first comment. Anyone hesitating to jump in can just follow the thread that appears in this first post. Fear. Y-noT placed a name on desire. Let's name fear. Where does fear originate? How does it undercut/drive our desires? Look at the four big ones that you just named... fear of being open, failing, being judged, fear of trying new things. What else?
well i think that one guy girl it dont matter its right what everone want is wasy out of our reach thats why people have to work there ass off to get it but people i know will slack off and want to take the easy way out. it still would be a changelle but its easier to get too.....so how about those EAGLES lol just kidding trying to break the ice you know hahahah
Well I have fear of going on trains and I have this sense that I am going to die because train can be easily knocked down by some big obstacle or the driver isn't paying attention. I mean seeing news about a train collapse over like the one near Los Feliz it was a scary thing for me.
my biggest fear is able to survive in my community and fear to be jump by mistake because I have been different occasions that they told me where are you from? and I say no where or show them my stomach to reveal I don't have any tattos.I'm aware in my surrounds all times.
FEAR: An unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat.
I guess the fear or paranoia that I have towards reaching the end point of my career is the fact that I'm Latina. I worry that I might not be what directors or producers are looking for. I feel that most of the time for a movie, show, or even music videos, their description is tall, blonde with blue eyes. I'm not saying I dislike my roots, its just harder to get to where you want to because racism still exist out there and I doubt it'll go away anytime soon.
I want to start my career slow with being an extra in movies but I don’t want that to last that forever. Ya know?
LOL In middle school I had that same fear of getting jumped too, I would always walk home with friends, happy to say I never got jumped but we jumped others! lmao
I some what agree to what DramaLIZation said, its “harder to get to where you want to because racism still exist out there and I doubt it'll go away anytime soon.” However, I don’t think its racism, it people being judgmental on the race they see you belong to. My ethnicity is Asian and people tend stereotype me as being a typical Asian that is smart in school, good at computer math and especially at MATH. For example, I was a junior in high school, sitting in a math class trying to figure out some math problems. I was in a group; some of my fellow class mate has trouble solving the equation and so was I. “ask him he should know, he’s Asian” I could have swear I felt like punching that guy in the face. Therefore I think most people in society today are judgmental on the race you are.
Yeah i agree fear is what stops many of us getting started on our dreams that we have had for such a long time but for me what it has mostly been well so i feel no support for my family members. I remember when i told my fam that i wanted to be a dancer and NO not some freaken table dancer or anything like that but just dance on concerts or on music videos that kind of thing and my family went off on me how that wasn't a career. They have never agree in what i want to be. Thats what i feel that has stop me from trying things because there is many things that i would like to try out before i get older.
Racism is a big issue I agree with dramaLIZation its not easy for a latin girl to be on TV because their not blonde,blue eyes, and tall. Racism could stop people to accomplish their dream because maybe their not the "ideal" person for the job. When I say ideal i mean they don't have the look or their race that sort of thing
well i think that racism has existed for a pretty long time. but one think that has been affecting everyone is when they say "i can't do it." Everyone has the capability to say "yes i can." because everyone are equal and have rights that protects them from accomplishing their dreams. i understand that there are people who are going to try to put you down and tell you that "you can't do it" but that should help us get more stronger and demonstrate that you can do it and that there isn't anything impossible in this world that you can do. the only think that we need to do is just effort ourselves to do what we need to do first such as finish college and pushing ourselves to be someone in life.
In the case of fear, A person is the one who creates their own fear by doubting themselves. Meaning you are preparing yourself to fail. People, who are motivated, are the persons that achieve most of their goal because he or she know exactly what they want. Fear is only there if you are very confuse with clearly what your goal are. Stress can also contribute as a problem for achieving a goal.
As for judgment, Every person get judge whether it have to do with his or her ethnicity and characteristics. The solution is how do we face them.
If you really desire something, you need to be ambitious. If you are ambiguity, you would not accomplish none.
Fear keeps us from not achieving our goals. It puts us down, overpowers us, and becomes an obstacle that gets us nowhere. But every obstacle that gets in our way, there is always a way through. Because fear, racism and etc… get us nowhere but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, if we try. Is just like canoeing upon a rigid river, every wave’s keeps bumping into you in every direction and wants to tip you over. But you paddle and paddle with all your might and use all your strength, but all of a sudden it tips you over. But you didn’t give up, you went back into the canoe and you use all your strength to battle against the beating waves. Until the boat touches land and you yell out loud for victory. No one or nothing gets in your way to get through your goals.
In my experience fear has been a big influence on because I don't do much because I don't like taking unnecessary risks. It has affected me in school and personal life because it has limited my decisions. As far as being judge, I know I have been judge by others but I could care less and honestly I probably have prejudge others as well. Racism will continue to exist for as long there are people who think that they are better than others because for some strange reason people need that extra boost for their twisted self-esteem.
Fear, thats something I obtain, my biggest fear would be something happening to me and my kids not having me around. But my fear also makes me stronger. I would have to agree dramalization racism is always going to exist hopefully one day it will just go away. I also whats it like to have the fear of getting jumped. In high school I hung out with that crowd, I started getting pressured in to joining but I never did but I started to fear that one day I was going to get caught of guard and BAM I'll get jumped.
What I want is to be happy with how I am and to become mostly satisfied with my life. I watched family and people in my life live with regrets which are normal, but I don’t want to carry anything on my heart. I was brought up not to fear, but to accept and face things. Though, I’ve gotten older and notice that my biggest fear is to struggle. Even one has their problems but I don’t want it to get to the point in where hit manic depression.LOL. So I think the thing that I fear most pushes me. Plus I want to make my pops proud. I’m not trying to let anything get in the way. I can’t really say how I’m going to get there because I’m still unsure on where I’m going. I’m trying to follow my heart and make the right choices on the way.
I've had this fear of being open, letting people know about things I just would not tell any stranger. What I’ve learned as time goes by is one must take risk in order to understand oneself in life, To reveal that life is not perfect is a journey and awaits to be explored and to return and tell people of what one has discovered .It lets people know they are not the only ones going through that situation in their life and one helps others by telling their experiences and that no one is perfect.
Fear is also my problem. There is always an obstacle from reaching my goal. I'm afraid of failing and being judge. Whenever I failed on something, it is hard for me to move foward. I sometimes share my negative thoughts, failures, and complaints to my friends and family.
I agree with Lizette. Most people fear to be open because they are afraid of the judgement that follow it. We need to stop caring about what others think of us and just do what we have to do. We are not here to please anyone but ourself. Take a step at a time and you will finish the race to what ever you want to accomplish. Be ambitious, Be open and most of all be yourself. I know that there are reasons which can help motivate us even if we have problems. We need to stay focus on our desires.
Fear is not a big thing for me because if I fear something. I am doubting myself. When you doubt yourself, you always fail. Sometimes over confidence can lead to failure as well. I was so confidence that I had pass my Chemistry test one day, but the test prove otherwise. Because I was so confidence, I didn't even check over my test and that lead to my down fall. But I learn a lesson. When you fail, it prepare you to do better and try harder next time. Babies have fallen several times before they final learn how to walk. Remember we were all babies once and we are built to overcome obstacles.
Language is the most highly developed, most clever, and complicated form of communicating. Human life without it is hard to imagine. It can sometimes get us to be uncivilized. To get to our destination is by understanding and discovering it to get us moving forward. Language is a desire which all people want to grasp and overpower it.
i also fear being open, i dont know i guess i dont like people knowing my business. i feel weird, i guess because their is so many psychos out there what if i get like a stalker..lol eventually ill over come that fear and be more open about myself
Now that some of you have brought up the idea of being open to others I myself fear that. Reason is because for one people keep disappearing on me. So now that I think about it no one that i know really knows me because of this. They only know as much as I want them to know.
Wanting mean to have a strong desire for and desire is to long or hope for; to express a wish for. The question is ask, What do I want? I want to learn and understand the concept of becoming an expert at college essays or becoming a good writer without question. There are obsticals which cause me to not grasp the whole essays thing, such as using formal grammar, punctuation, knowing when and where to form the introduction, thesis, topic, body, support, evidence, and conclusion. Being an expert at writing essays is very important to me because it will help me on my journey to succeed with my future degree. I will want to one day look back at this day remembering how hard it was struggling to become a good writer and hope that one day this experience was a well taught experience and challenge it by becoming a successfull writer.
Fear is one of the thing I would like to ignore as for now, but I always wonder what if I make a desition on majoring on something that on a future is not going to be what I was specting it to be. I don't know if I should thing this way because still at the end probaly could be an experience that would make me learn from my own desitions or mistakes. I do agree with many of you that say that fear is a negative thing for us, because it can make us not achieve what we want, but I also think that we all should have a little of fear towards what we want because having a little of fear make us push our self to think about what we wante twise and reflect if thats what we want.
I think I want ultimately to be successful and to be the one that everyone recognizes out the crowd. tobe that phenomenal doctor that has her own hospital. Oftentimes i think the people that i suppose choose to hang out with gets in the way, and sometimes family members as well they try to top me from reaching my full potential, they would rather that I act just like their average joe, and try to be like others. But a wise man once said, "It is better to aim high and miss it, rather than aim low and make it." And this makes perfect sense, how will you evr know that you would have failed doing somwthing that you never tried doing. In order for me to get to my long- term goakl I will have to finish college, go to medical school, and finish internship and residency, and there's so many other things i will have to do in between ll of that. I think that overall my journey is defined by the belief that If it is meant to be, it is always and forever be up to me. That i am the ultimate chooser of the way my life is going to turn out, and then that is going to in the end make the bigger difference.
I agree with when-d I think that fear is in fact what causes many of us to give less than we actually have to give and from achieving up to our full potential. But like Mandela said, "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." I agree witht his saying because we can actually do what it is that we have set out to do, and overcome our fears but it is up to us to do so. Because the only thing stopping us from achieving our goals are we ourselves!
I agree with bertha_lin123 in her explanation of what language is and how our language system coul.d not function without it. Because i myelf cannot think of our basic life's function without language. It is a key part of iour everyday life and function and our very being and existance depends on language tremendously.
I think that fear and desire are not one but they are related . whenever i have a dream or goal that i want to accomplish it is always accompanied by fear . fear of what if i can't do it ?or what if i'm not smart enough ? but i think that's how life is . if there was no fear in life none of us would get anywhere . fear drives us . it drives us to become better friends , better mother and finally better people . fear gives us that strenght to go on because all we see it that dream coming true .
I want it all. It's a bit hard to say but if i work for it then it will come to me. Thre really isn't anyway to put this topic because people are diffrent. some have a strong iron will to finish what they started and others give up at the first sight of failue.
The language of desire is something we all have inside of us. The language that can repersent a person and the desire to speak out and not be afraid to be heard. The desire may lead can lead people to different journey's depending on how big a person wants to stick out. When it comes to fear I agree Darren fear can hold a person back from so much in life. Fear can have so much control cause it involves change and it deals with stepping out of your comfort zone. I always had the problem of not going out to party's in high school because I was always scared of how people would judge me when i dance or how I dress. Once I stepped up my senior year and stopped trying to impress the world, going out began to be a normal thing. Fear kept me from so much excitement and fun but sometimes change is good and fear is something that can always be conquered.
i think that the langugage of desire helpes people to open up and get their points across .
so everyone can try to be on the same page and no one can act like they donot understand what other people are talking about . so to me that is what the languge of desire means to me.
To me the language of desire should not be considered a fear but a tool that people use to start talking to each other one on one or in a group . Also, should not worry what the other person or people thinks or feels about what they say .
before anybody could really sit on and type anything on the subject at hand . I feel that people should sit down and try and understand what the Languge of Desire really means to the person and then that is when you can write about .
The language of desire for me is how you talk to someone and express your emotions. For me, I am a little antisocial because I am afraid of what the person who I am communicating with will think of me. Like for example: If i like girl in my class, you can tell by my body language, but i would not confront her about it. Whenever, you desire something, your body language alway give away you emotion.
Language and Desire is intriguing exploration into the language we use to talk about and express romantic and sexual desire. When I was a little younger, I was interest in this girl but I think that I didn't have the right words to say. What I fail to realize was that I just had to tell her what I was feeling from the heart instead of trying to impress her with all these unnecessary exaggerating words.
A strong desire can help a person time to time when it comes to any situation. The language of desire can be seen as a sense of fear the reason being not everyone can't always speak their mind. I think of this way some people would choose to be in a play and some would rather sit back and watch the play.
Bertha writes: "Language is a desire which all people want to grasp and overpower it." Now, if you sit back for a moment and let that sink in, the concept could take you places. Then Roque323 says: "The language of desire can be seen as a sense of fear... not everyone can't always speak their mind." So, where does that leave us? What these excellent thoughts and others have suggested is that these concepts "desire" and "fear" are both rooted in our language system. We reach for desire as much as we reach out to fear. Which one is the master?
I think that people as my self are not afraid to put what they really feel and think, but what we are actually afraid of is that someone read it and think that we are losers or stupid for thinking that way. That’s one of the main reason why I prefer to write only what I see on a paper that someone else is going to read rather than what I actually feel. Every time I start writing I always want to write the things I see or feel, but I'm afraid of writing to much or get off topic.
I fear to express myself in front of others because I don’t want to say something stupid or at least something that someone else thing is stupid, that’s why most of the time I prefer to stay quite and only hear what others have to say, even though I desire with all my heart to express myself and show that I do have an opinion but there is always something inside me that stop me and stay quite while the rest talk.
My fear is how people would judge me. I feel that some people just won't understand certain things for the fact that they never been through it. Some people just talk what they been taught what is wrong and what is right. That is why when I write some thing I leave things out.
I had the same feeling of marlen_prz has that I had the same conscious for express myself and not hurting other people's feelings. But the more you wait the more you will not be able to express yourself to other and this can effect your emotions and the communication to the society. I personally I think twice before talking to anyone who
I don't know, life is taking risks say it or you will regretted for your entire life.
I also have trouble putting my emotions on paper. I don't want anyone to think that I am a punk or anything. Growing up as a male, I learn that Male should be strong. Don't express feelings because it is a sign of weakness.
I guess everyone would have a different opinion. I think I'll have to consider it no matter how bad it is because they may see something I can't. Someone's opinion may help me with something even if is something stupid because I believe their is more people that share the same thing with me that just don't speak up.
I too think twice of what i have to say especially if i don't really know this person. I wouldn't want this person to think I'm weird or anything. I have been anxious to say something in class but how about if the class looks at me weird like what are you talking about. But then I also think it has to do with a bit of insecurity with one self thinking less of yourself. Life is risk taking take chance or else there is no way we'll go anywhere. That goes for me too.
We try to hard to look good or make a good impression with others that instead we say what we don't mean.
My experience with that has been that i leave not feel good wishing that i had said what was on my mind instead.
Then is fear getting in our way of writing complex thoughts and emotions? Do we try to keep our writing simple and flat in order to remain invisible? I was hiking in the nearby mountains a few days ago and I almost stepped on a lizard. He remained perfectly still, even with my foot inches from his head. Any lizards out there?
I think that everyone is open to their own opinion. However, some might hold in what they really want to express about someone or something because I know I do. You might want to say something and then you would suddenly feel as if it's not your place to say anything because you feel that you might be wrong when you're really not, you're just expressing your opinions.
Well there's one thing I fear the most. I fear that I might not be successful in college. I have been procrastinating in couple of my classes and I have to get my act together if I wanna succeed in class. I agree with the people above me about their opinion of fear.
I agree, its only been recently that i have come to the conclusion that my own fears are the only things that are holding me back from achieving my full potential. I have grown unhappy with thinking that mediocracy is the best that i will ever achieve. I have decided to try something new everyday. I have finally embraced my fears and only seen them as my motivation for success, like my father always said "there is no excuse for failure." i truly believe that now and so fear is now nothing but an excuse!
my biggest fear of all is losing my family and loosin myself in being a drug addict, fear of getting killed, fear of not being able to be a successful in the future. someway or the other we have to face our fears in order for us not to fear that again.i was about to loose my life in a scooter accient and that was a big ear for me becauei was about to loose my education my family becasue i was going to die. "Fear comes from uncertainty. When we are absolutely certain, whether of our worth or worthlessness, we are almost impervious to fear. Thus a feeling of utter unworthiness can be a source of courage."
I agree with Maria M. since fear is something that holds us back from developing our full potential. is something that we have to work on everyday and leave fear behind and start a new page of our life. is a hard road that we will face but i think that everyone is capable to face what will come knowing that other people might not agree with them. we have to be who we really are and face the world and be part of it.
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FEAR is false evidence appearing real. Obstacles are what you call "blockers" I would like to introduce you to my theory. "Life Interfering Lessons" that will temporarily put you in a binding situation but to bounce back will be promising.
Racism still to this day exist, but discrimination consist of not only racism but sterotyping ones way of communicating, ones style, ones opinion, ones faith in their own belief and the list goes on.
Whoa everyone post some awesome comment =D, well anyways everyone has fear and you can't hide it and the only way to face your fear is to go forward and accomplish it. Like what Alex quoted, "Fear comes from uncertainty. When we are absolutely certain, whether of our worth or worthlessness, we are almost impervious to fear. Thus a feeling of utter unworthiness can be a source of courage." its actually true and to me I'll say be brave and everything will be fine in my opinion.
People in here has different fears and different obstacles to over come.I see that majority has fear of not be successful in life for me is the money because without it I wouldn't have nothing at all like food,a house,accessories and even an college degree. I seen my people getting stuck in the same lifestyle and this is why I get motivation to gain a college degree. If I become wealth I will will consider to be poor inside my heart.
I feel what shanta woodson is saying..
i think most people cant help but to "judge a book by its cover". its starting to become ah natural habbit to our society. Like i feel its sad a person can't walk into the street and wear what they want with being cirtique, because the person style isnt "hood enough" or its not the trend for this year
and i feel porfiriol
the money you make doesnt matter if you doing something you hate. money is important and I take it very seriously but it has to be a line at some point. I love and photography and I know i want to do that for my career and it might not make me as much as a doctor or something..but thats where my heart is, so im a make it work to fit my need for money
going off of Shanta and D. Brown's comments I think that it is true that stereotypes are taking over the world. Even though stereotypes can be rude and offensive, sometimes it can help an individual. You just have to choose the right moment in which you should use it to your advantage and not just to be a rude person.
Onto another note I would say that my fear is patience. I always want results right then and there and can't wait until later. The fear kicks in is when if I can't get an answer or result right away I may try to make a short cut and get it in a quicker way, but it may mess up my results. For example I may want a new t-shirt and instead of waiting for that next pay check to come in I decide to steal it and suffer the consequences. Not saying I will do so, but that's an example of my fear.
I agree with D.Brown and R2 about the judgmental part.
When I was coming from school late one night, a white dude was walking on the same side as I was but he was walking towards me.
As we approached each other, he said "Please don't rob me, I have 20 dollars and you can have it."
"Why would I want to rob you?" I queried.
He looked at me with a surprising expression in his face and continue walking pass me.
I realized he said that because of my appearance. I had on a black jeans pants and a black sweater with a hood. My hair was braided and to make manners worst I was black in a ghetto neighborhood.
Talking about stereotyping. I should have took the 20 dollars from him when he offered it.....lol I am joking
One of the prompts that catch me the attention that is similar to our comments is called Just answers the question! Easier said than done, it is also an example of why we are afraid to answer a question that is unknown to us. The writer is afraid to talk to the stranger but later answer his question. One of the quotes said, “Regardless of the outcome, questions create conditions that force us to be vulnerable. Questions force us to reveal. Questions demand an answer. Yet, at the heart of each piece of writing is a question.” I think this quote answer of some of our thoughts about fear.
I agreed with marlen_prz, I think everyone is afraid to write their comment and afraid to be read, because they are afraid that a miss punctuation or grammar or misspell word they will think negative thoughts. I’m also afraid to write what I feel because I may be judge or say something that I don’t like to hear, and prefer to be quite and keep it to myself.
In Darren’s situation he had, I got almost the same situation it started when the news made breaking news of cartels of México. This moment and forward I started to get mad because the entire world still has a mad imagine of México. People who agree what the news said they consider México a bad country. So I when to México to see if it's true it wasn’t it was calm all the entire day and the cops over there. They are prepared of everything because they have zero tolerant of any crimes on México. I think each country has a mad side and a good side too. Like here we have MS, 18st and others gangs who kills innocents people. This can also affect this country but they don't show it in the news the only reason is because they wants us to know what they want us to know a lot.
I totally agree with Porfirio when he say that news just tell us what they want us to believe, because they never talk about the good things from some countrys starting with Mexico. I come from mexico City a nice place to live and visit, but when I see the news the only thing they say anout Mexico City is that is the worse place that there is to much robery, kidnapes, bad people a scary place to live. I'm not say that there are no robery, kidnapes or other yes there is but not in all the places there are really good parts to visit or live, but thats not what news tell you they just tell you what they want us to believe. Just like with the Flue they say that many people have die from it in mexico and all around the world but I havent see or heard from someone I know or close to my family that have died from it I think they just want us to be scare so we take more care of ourself.
I want to be successsful but how do I know if i will? If had the big house, the nice car does that mean Iam successful. I think its when I find something im good at and use it to help others or my famiy. I have the fear of beign homeless living on the streets i dnt know how i would spend my days if I was homeless. fear is good it make me wanna work hard but its also a nitemare. i just take it easy one obstacle at a time one experince at a time.
I think that its hard for many people to share difficult memories thats why they don't ask difficult questions. So many of us live in denial, that if we don't talk about it it's not real. We work so hard in our everyday lives to build a reality around us where we don't feel so uninformed and exposed. When we are faced with a difficult decision the act of answering that question takes us out of our comfort zone. The act of answering this question can shatter the careful illusion and control that we so carefully build around ourselves.
i agree to what people say about fear and many of thier obstacles about fear. we have to learn to take down fear.
I agree with what Maria said. I think that when you ask people things that brings back some kind of horrible memory fromt heir past. They sort of freeze and don't know what to say, or how to answer. and i think that those types of peoples are the ones that don't know phow to connect very well with their writing. And for the memories they can't handle they try to cover up with a lie, and then that throws the whole essay off.
Hmm. Now that's an interesting idea. Let's go with this comment for a minute. First, for those of you who haven't read the posting "The Question", read it on ecompanion. Ce-ce01 one writes that we're afraid to answer questions, sometimes, because something in our past gets in the way. Let's not say "afraid". Let's consider what gets in the way. How closely do you really LOOK at a question? How well do we actually listen to each other? Many of the comments posted here are only a partial response to others. And, most of the threads disappear, except for the continual restatement of (well, fear gets in the way). Okay, we're clear on that now. The key to academic discourse is to "attempt" to capture the essence of the content. So... what gets in the way? How do we listen more closely to each other? How do we pay better attention to written questions? What do you think of this idea that if questions force us to take a stand, do we first have to wrestle with our own personal histories to answer them?
I think if we push away judgement and another things and we keep an open mind where our mind is clear we could welcome more things in and also we would be able to let things out. It would be something real smooth like a wave coming to shore.
But maybe when it comes to taking a stand we would have to reflect on our historical past to be able to make a better decision or to be able to back up the decision we are making. And reflect on the knowledge that we have gain so far.
So... what gets in the way? How do we listen more closely to each other? How do we pay better attention to written questions? What do you think of this idea that if questions force us to take a stand, do we first have to wrestle with our own personal histories to answer them?
What can get in the way of someone overcoming the so- called "fear" towards answering a disturbing question, could be in part, the reaction of the questioner: a parent asking a child a very personal question, or the police asking a suspected criminal knowing there might be some sort of negative feedback. There are consequences.
In addition, the questioner themselves do not always ask with a non biased point of view. As a result these interviewers, may cloud their minds with expected answers and not pay attention to what the other person is responding to
(other than the key words that might just support the questioner). Bluntly, it can be linked to the idea that we only want to hear what we want and respond from it. The rest, we just let it go to our convenience.
In relation to written questions, we have a habit of only highlighting the "key terms" of the questions. Sometimes, we highlight was we would expect to be a part of the question. However, reading deeper into a question reveals that there are also words within the question that were easily disregarded and should be incorporated. We can easily recognize "Who, what, when, where, why" The instant a question starts out with a vague introduction, it suddenly triggers the mind that this will not be an easy question to answer.
To answer a rather difficult question, one must obviously search within their memory banks. For many, especially if the answer in mind, has some sort of trauma or "fear" as many have mentioned it will become rather difficult to express or write down. As mention earlier, many may avoid the question or find "loopholes" to suit their convenience. Politicians do this all the time to avoid confrontation, or worse, revealing the dirty side of an administration. This can lead to protests, (in some countries) revolts, impeachments, and shame above all.
We have to acknowledge, that no human is perfect. Eventually we will reach a hole in which we will not come out with "rainbows and sparkles." What we express has consequences, but at the same time, however we may respond, we may not completely know if confronting a difficult question or situation may lead into punishment, or reward.
I think that when it comes to taking a stand I would be wrestling with my histories because it may helps me analyze things and help me decide. I agree with WHEN-d.
how far would you go to overcome your FEAR in order to achieve your DESIRE? (:
Sorry for my last post here is the edited version
We keep talking about fear. Fear is just another emotion that holds are potential back from achieving greatness. I have to say that I disagrees with Gabby_90_ for me I would not wrestle with my past. Because I think that past hold you back thats why it is called the past. I would end up thinking about this question to much. Lets not make the question something bigger then it real is. it is only words that are attached to a feeling. What if u can detach the feeling from these words that creates this question? Then would we have fear if there is no emotion attached? I believe when we are given a question that has fear attached to it we must act like the third person and look beyond the fear to the answer. Because where there is fear there real is just lack of understanding or knowledge
Answering question is not hard for me, I just answer from the heart. People might disagree with my opinoin, but we all have our own way to answer questions. Some answer a question base on the knowledge that they have on it and others from the heart. I answer from the heart because the heart is unlimited and the mind is limited.
According to me sometimes when somebody answers question we have fear to answer it, but we can not because we were afraid to answer the question. and sometime we also know the answer, but we can not find the words which can express the idea what we are trying to say.Most of the time we do not want to answer or participate to answer the question of anything because we think that if we will answer the question and it would be wrong, than we will look like a stupid one in the crowed. In other words we feel embarrassment to answer the question.
As Boris said "I disagrees with Gabby_90_ for me I would not wrestle with my past. Because I think that past hold you back that why it is called the past" I agree with him because what happened in the past answer many question that we have in our own minds. And it also teach us a lesson. Which we never forget. I think our past is our best teacher. It teaches us a lot. I do think we wrestle with our past to answer a question.
I think we just don’t take enough time to actually listen to each other. Even when we choose to listen, we never really take anything other than the superficial meaning of the statement. I think it would help if after hearing someone’s answer we asked why they answered the way they did. In this way we would learn more of the person’s history, which would ultimately lead us to the deeper meaning of the answer. In answer to the question that involves wrestling with our past in order for us to take a stand in our answers to the present questions, we have to come to terms with the unresolved issues of our past. If we choose to live in denial of our past, then there is no way that we can truthfully answer questions in the present.
Depends on what the question or task is? Its not always easy letting people in or know your past. eveyone has problems, but when its yor issues you take it more to heart.It can be hard to express some things so the answer just comes out vague
Everyone stop talking about fear!! BTW we all know we have our own fear and we gotta face it sometimes
What do I want?...Well who doesn't want to attain something in life. Kahlil Gibran once said "the significance of man in not what he attains, but what he longs to attain", so pretty much when we have something it's meaningless, thus you try to find something that does catch your eye. Also economist call this the diminish marginal utility which is formally known as the DMU effect, which means: decrease enjoyment with increase consumption. So rather than tell you what I "want”, I would rather tell you what i need. And what I need is very simple, what I need is to be successful.
yea i feel alian,i just neee to be successful. But sometime "Ouicksand" happens..
Yeah I understand, but there are ways around it. In my opinion if you look at things with an optimistic point of view, you tend to do better in life, than opposed to looking at the glass half way through. D.Brown you need think highly of yourself, because without that self motivation you can't do nothing in life. :)
I agree to alain you need to have motivation, optimistic in life because without those things you can't be a successful person on your own life.I consider myself one of those people who have those problems too because as a childhood till now I have trouble to be on top of every class (do my homework pass exam etc ) If I have problems to complete tasks I try hard to overcome my weakness and prove it quick as possible.
Language for me is a desire and not to fear. I guess everyone is afraid what they say and what they write. I think language is like a question that keeps us questioning until we are done until we know the answer. It like this, like writing an essay it takes time to complete and make it perfect that is how language is. By practicing writing and reading, language will be easy.
I think that language of desire is emotions. Because desire to me means wanting something very strongly. And I guess language of desire is wanting more, like you want to grasp it. Everyone wants to grasp the language, because language is like a diamond that everyone needs to have it, and is a precious thing, too.
how do we listen more closely to each other? How do we pay better attention to a writen question? what gets in our way? These are the questions Mr. Schnitzler ask.
I believe the answer to listening more closely to each other is very clear on this discussion box. The only thing we are missing is understanding. we need to read and re-read some of comments so we can get a clear message to be able to translate the message into our own opinion. Paying better attention to a written question, I can admit I'm sometimes asked a question, but instead of answering the question I come up with my own question, and answer it without staying on the topic, I need help with that one. Lastly, what get's in our way, FEAR of course, and the desire to express myself in a clear manner.
I understand what shanta is sayig. I think most people come up with they own questions and answer is because people like to stay in thier comfort zone. When answering a question (an important question) you have to use the info you have infront of you and life Experiences. Its hard to get personal and thats why questions dont get answered. You have to be able to open up to truly listen to someone question and respond with an answer with some type of emotion
I guess when someone asks a question; I guess most people are afraid to answer by their own opinion. I guess because it takes time to answer but afraid to answer, which sometimes don’t know what they are trying to say.
Language is a struggle to understand, because we have to examine and understand it. Language can sometimes but us down, but knowing more it gets you up. Like my sister told me, “When you in an argument is better to choose your words wisely in order to defend yourself from the other person”. What I try to say is one vocabulary word can but down a person. I guess language is some sort of helpful and it gets us overpower.
Do you guys understand what I’ am trying to say?
Everybody has the goal in life. In order to reach this goal we should build up the plan of actions. However, on the way of achieving this goal we can face of all kind of obstacles. The fear of facing these obstacles is first sign of possible act of refusing to be active and consequently to become a failure. In this case, we should bring to our arsenal of action the sugestions and personal experiences of our mentors, or parents. Such approach in acheiving our goals can be a good tool to open self-determination in order to be sucssefull in life.
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